Becoming a Senior Utopian

Sun, May 30, 2010

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If you are anything like me, you will always have wanted to run before you could walk.  You want to have all the answers to everything before you make a start with anything.  You are a perfectionist you want to be the best all of the time and because of this, you have a tendency to procrastinate. Why?  Well because it takes a lot of time and effort to be perfect.

In this post I want to share with you, how you can change your mindset and learn how not to be a perfectionist and still be a success in the internet marketing industry (or any industry for that matter!)

Beth’s Scale of Success

This is my scale of success. 1 is Procrastination through to 7. Perfectionism. Whilst we perfectionists strive for the best.  We either find that we achieve little (because we never get started for fear of screwing up) or once in a while something fantastically amazing happens.

The trick to achieving success is to first simplify your life as much as possible and secondly just get going.  The rest of the scale includes: 2, Dabbling, 3.Habit, 4.Routine, 5.Passion, 6.Obsession.

Dabbling: This is where you dip your toe in the water every now and again, but rarely stick at anything long enough to accomplish anything of any great significant success.

Habit: The word habit has for many a negative connotation.  Whilst it means you are starting to do something more often, it usually is haphazard, uncoordinated, with no clear plan, often becoming a habit by accident.  It becomes part our lives before we have given much thought to the consequences.  Take for example, bad habits like smoking, affairs, excessive drinking.

Routine: This is the next step on from habit, allowing the individual to take control of the habit.  Routine allows planning, focus, the ability to learn and grow, scheduling and time management.  Routine can both cultivate and grow positive habits like personal development but also limit negative habits like reducing dependency on drugs or providing regular time for rehabilitation.

Passion: After routine comes passion.  Finding our passions can sometimes take time and often fits hand in hand with routine. Learning to follow our passions, ensuring we have regular time to pursue our dreams is desirable for a fulfilled life.

Obsession: Again, like habit, obsession has negative connotations. Obsession is where our passions often become overbalanced and start to consume our everyday life.  Spending excessive time doing something we love often distracts us from spending time with the ones we love and we get labelled as selfish, uncaring or unkind.

Perfection: Whilst perfection is on the surface good, perfection usually is the result of obsessive and repetitive behaviour, take for example a number one athlete who has less time for his family and friends in pursuit of a sporting achievement.  Once we become so good at something we often feel we have to be perfectionists in everything we do.

In my opinion, to be successful the best place to be on my success scale is somewhere between Passion and Routine. Whilst Habit and Routine is not a bad place to be, do you really want to become a RABBIT?!!!

Now here comes the magic part.  After creating my new scale of success in my head and producing my ideal ‘state of being’ as being somewhere between passion and routine, I wanted very much to coin a new phrase to describe this place on my scale. Passtine’ and Rousion’ didn’t really do it for me and so call it insanity, genius or plain old intuition I set about the next half hour trying to create a meaningful anagram of “passion and routine”.

Now be grateful people because you almost got Onerous Pianist’ a disgusting ‘urinates poison’ or maybe as a last resort a painstakingly all too troublesome ‘Sinus Operation’ OUCH!!….

No No, I couldn’t be so cruel to this new ‘state of being’ I had just created….but then, as if by magic I started to spell out on my notepad….wait for it…..S.E.N.I.O.R (good so far)…...U.T.O.P.I.A.N.S Ooh I like it!

So what the heck does this mean?  Well Utopia is the name for an ideal community; a society without evils such as poverty and misery.  A place where there are few laws because there is no need.  There are no criminal acts, nor dangerous situations, there are no intolerances.  In fact a Utopian is a society that actively encourages tolerance of all religions.

Utopianism in many cultures refers to a social norm where human kind is better when it’s in its most primitive state, without distractions and complications.  When fulfilment is easily achieved through ones love with nature, culture, passion and continuous pursuit (routine) of happiness, WOW!

Is my discovery of this coincidence, law of attraction, an over active imagination?  All I will say is this.  If you are following your passion in life with regular routine, you are in my opinion a Senior Utopian.

If you are anywhere else on my success scale but have dreams that have yet to manifest themselves, either because you are setting your goals to high (a perfectionist) or merely dipping your toe in the pool of passion for fear of messing up if you dive right in, then you are in most certainly Urinating Poison… or in for a nasty nasal operation or just finding it difficult to play the piano!!

Only joking…you are none of these things, you in fact a Junior Utopian in the pursuit of Senior Utopian status!!

I hope you enjoyed my post.  I would love to know what you think of my scale of success.  Right now I feel like I could write a whole book on the subject.

Much Love and Happiness,

Head Senior Utopian

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18 Responses to “Becoming a Senior Utopian”

  1. Glyna Humm Says:

    Beth - I never thought of perfectionism like this before. You are right on the money with your scale of sucess. I really need to digest this again and move through the scale and process myself! Here’s to my journey to Senior Utopian:)
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    Beth Hewitt Reply:

    So glad that you think this means something, nice to know I havent finally lost the plot. hehe

    See you Senior Utopian Graduation!

    Beth :)
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  2. Val Wilcox Says:

    Absolutely love it Beth!
    You bring your quirky sense of humor to a subject that should be fun! Love your descriptions of the different stages. I’m with Glyna, here’s to ALL of us on our journey towards being a Senior Utopian!!! Woo Hoo :)

    Thanks for the great smiles today,
    Val :)
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    Beth Hewitt Reply:

    Yeah I like making Val Smile?

    Yep see you at the top, first one there puts the kettle on!
    Beth x
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  3. Lori Robertson Says:

    Beth, this was a really cool way to look at your scale of where you are and where you want to go. This is also a very funny post that I really enjoyed. I love the title Senior Utopian, hopefully I am headed there!!!!

    Great job!
    Lori Robertson´s last blog ..Ask And It Is Given – There Is No Such Thing As NO! My ComLuv Profile


    Beth Hewitt Reply:

    You certainly are Lori….don’t you think its strange that you can make senior utopians out of passion and routine!!

    Beth :)
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    Lori Robertson Reply:

    Yes, I do, LOL!
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  4. Melodie Kantner Says:

    Hi Beth,

    This is a great post. It’s a nice way to view the success steps and keep a balance going.

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    bethhewitt80 Reply:

    Thanks hun, so glad that you liked it!

    Beth :)
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  5. Nelson Says:

    Beth, I got the Senior part down pat. However my Utopia awaits me the the “Land of Unclouded Day” I agree that we need discipline and passion which you so humorously described. You are a needed light for the road to success.


  6. Lori Tisot Says:

    OMG - I laughed so hard! Thanks so much for addressing a serious topic with such a great sense of humor! Here’s to Senior Utopianism :)

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  7. Linda G. Cox Says:

    What a crack up! I imagine you coming up with all this when your daughter is around, laughing and joking all the while! It’s wonderful to think about the process of relizing our dreams - I like to think of myself as a Senior Utopian - that sounds good.
    Thanks Beth!
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  8. Edward Says:

    Hi Beth,

    Thanks for sharing these ideas with us. I had never thought of them in this way before. I love the scale from Procrastination to Perfection.
    I can find myself on both ends of the scale but happy that I find myself in the middle most of the time!

    Thanks again.

    Make it a great day!
    God Bless,
    Edward´s last blog ..The DREAM Project Begins My ComLuv Profile


  9. Stacy Says:

    Hi Beth, I love your scale of success! I had never thought of it in that way before! I can see myself on all levels in different parts of my life. You’ve given me some good thoughts to think upon!

    Stacy´s last blog ..Who Are You Becoming? My ComLuv Profile


  10. Teresa Ivory Says:

    Hi Beth! As usual, your sense of humor has me cracking up. What a wonderful concept you’ve come up with! Success always seems to relate back to balance and moderation, doesn’t it? Thanks you so much for sharing this idea. Everyone will be able to figure out where they are on your scale and implement their own plan to become a SENIOR UTOPIAN.

    PLEASE write your book!
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  11. Dr. Erica Goodstone Says:

    Beth, Your post is adorable and fun. I agree that probably the best place to be on your scale is between routine and passion. However, I’m not crazy about Senior Utopia. Sounds like either you can’t get there when you’re young or if you reach that state, you’re old.


    bethhewitt80 Reply:

    lol that cracked me up
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  12. Chris Hilaire Says:

    Hi Beth,
    great post it made me laugh in a real good way. I think your use of a scale for success was brilliant. It’s got me thinking where on the scale I am Hmmm???

    Keep smiling

    Chris :)
    Chris Hilaire´s last blog ..How To Sell Your Soul As An Internet Marketer – Is Your Marketing Strategy Leading You To A Date With The Devil? My ComLuv Profile


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