Worrying about what people think is something we have all experienced at some point. Being self-conscious is just natural and has happened to us all. However, some people just deal with what people think of them a whole lot better than others.
If you’re one of those people that is worrying about what people think of you, whether you think people think you are involved in a pyramid scheme, get rich quick clubs or that they just think you’re a little bit out there because you have a dream, this post might help you start to reverse those unpleasant thoughts.
1. Stop Over-thinking
The thing is… people are probably not thinking about what you are up to 24/7 anyway. People have their own lives, their own families, their own day jobs, dreams, things they need to do. They just don’t have the time to give you as much negative attention as you think. And ‘worrying about what people think’ is a huge waste of YOUR time.
I think about it like this…..
Let’s say you were asked to get up on a stage in front of an audience and give a speech about houses….but you miss heard what you were asked to do and you fluffed your lines and you actually spoke about horses for 30 minutes.
When you get home, you read your instructions again and you realise your error. How would you feel inside?…sick, panicky, embarrassed? The fact is, the people in the audience probably realized your mistake early on and for maybe for the time they were there they thought about how you were doing it wrong, but then after that…..NOTHING!
In all honesty, they probably thought you were brave and talented and maybe you were so good they thought you did the presentation on purpose, perhaps they thought THEY had got the wrong idea about the speech not even stopping to check what it was actually supposed to be about.
But tomorrow, it will be forgotten. People don’t have time to get wound up in someone elses mistakes, it doesn’t matter to them and why would it!
Don’t think too hard about things. If you make mistakes, laugh it off, put it down to experience and move on.
2. Be confident in your actions
Whether we are good at something or not, when we hold our head up high and give it our best shot, it really becomes quite insignificant what someone else would think anyway. If you believe in yourself no-one elses opinions really matters so stop worrying about what people think.
3. Accept yourself for who you are
You are who you are, accept your individuality and be proud of what you believe in. Don’t try to be something you are not, all too often people try to emulate who they aspire to, but often this can be to their downfall.
It is, after all, hard to be someone else when we are so used to being US! When we feel comfortable in our own skin, it really doesn’t matter what people think of us. Embrace your differences, your quirks and idiosyncrasies, you might find people will actually be aspiring to be you instead! Now wouldn’t that be ironic after all that worrying about what people think!
4. You can’t stop people thinking!
However much you wish it was different; you simply can’t ever stop people thinking and whilst they might not ever be actually thinking about you at all. It’s good to just let go and know that no amount of worrying on your part will ever change that.
If people are formulating ill-founded opinions of you then so be it! We know the truth we know how utterly amazing you are, if they can’t figure it out, leave them to it and let them worry about it! (See how I flipped it LOL)
5. Focus on Something Else!
When we start worrying about what people think, we are actually focusing our attention in the wrong places. If we channelled that energy in to whatever it is we are trying to achieve an amazing shift will start to take place.
I found this great self-hypnotic exercise that can help you do just that over at uncommon help:
Step 1: Think about times when you are tempted to worry what others think about you.
Step 2: Now think of times when you are totally focussed – maybe on a sports game or piece of music or reading a book, or talking with a friend when they’re telling you something amazing. Now notice that feeling of being totally focussed outside of yourself.
Step 3: Amplify that feeling.
Step 4: Take that feeling of outer focus into the imagined situation from Step 1 (where before you’d have been worrying about what others might be thinking).
Step 5: Experience being in the formally self-conscious situation and feeling relaxed and unconcerned about what others may or may not be thinking.
Step 6: Notice what it’s like to reach the point where you no longer even think about what others might be thinking.
What are your experiences of worry and overcoming what people think?
To Your Success,
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